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So, three days later, I called her....
The conversation was very stressful. I started by apologizing for my attitude about the leadership discussion, and about how I, indeed, wanted to take over leadership of the Outreach as this was what I believed was the opportunity the Lord had presented for the best use of my gifts, skill set and experience. Vicky made it very clear that she was called to develop and implement the vision which eventually became Open Doors for the Open and that she had been very offended by my bullying my way into the leadership role when she had invited me onto the team in the first place. I continued to apologize and made the statement for the first time of many over the next seven months or so; "Vicky, if all we get out of this event is a solid relationship between you and me, then that would be enough." This was what my goal was for the next seven months, as I said.
She accepted my apology and all, but, there was a pall over the relationship from that point forward. We continued down the plan, her plan, continually trying to do whatever we could do to fund her as the "daily operator" of the outreach. This was incredibly difficult because Jimmy would not fund her efforts from the Chapel, nor, I understood, allow her to make a presentation to the congregation soliciting donations for her ministry. I found this not to be the case later on, say, in April of 2014 which I will cover in much later postings, but, suffice it to say, the process with Vicky to move the plan down the road was very, very difficult and stressful, in fact, did not happen.
As I sought out God's will and guidance on the Vicky subject, I believe I heard Him applaud me for seeking forgiveness and reconciliation with her and gave me a calmness in my spirit relative to the relationship. I, essentially, placed myself under her leadership and communicated with her several times a week. I kept referring to the "plan" I had developed and how the priorities were in place, but, we couldn't get the team to convene in a timely manner throughout the summer of 2013 as Jimmy would not budge relative to funding Vicky and I focused all my efforts on trying to help her find funding for her ministry that, really, became the funding of her life as she had very little support from anywhere else.
Would you like an advance copy of the book; "Open Doors for the Open - Behind the Scenes" when published? Click here and tell me....
So, three days later, I called her....
The conversation was very stressful. I started by apologizing for my attitude about the leadership discussion, and about how I, indeed, wanted to take over leadership of the Outreach as this was what I believed was the opportunity the Lord had presented for the best use of my gifts, skill set and experience. Vicky made it very clear that she was called to develop and implement the vision which eventually became Open Doors for the Open and that she had been very offended by my bullying my way into the leadership role when she had invited me onto the team in the first place. I continued to apologize and made the statement for the first time of many over the next seven months or so; "Vicky, if all we get out of this event is a solid relationship between you and me, then that would be enough." This was what my goal was for the next seven months, as I said.
She accepted my apology and all, but, there was a pall over the relationship from that point forward. We continued down the plan, her plan, continually trying to do whatever we could do to fund her as the "daily operator" of the outreach. This was incredibly difficult because Jimmy would not fund her efforts from the Chapel, nor, I understood, allow her to make a presentation to the congregation soliciting donations for her ministry. I found this not to be the case later on, say, in April of 2014 which I will cover in much later postings, but, suffice it to say, the process with Vicky to move the plan down the road was very, very difficult and stressful, in fact, did not happen.
As I sought out God's will and guidance on the Vicky subject, I believe I heard Him applaud me for seeking forgiveness and reconciliation with her and gave me a calmness in my spirit relative to the relationship. I, essentially, placed myself under her leadership and communicated with her several times a week. I kept referring to the "plan" I had developed and how the priorities were in place, but, we couldn't get the team to convene in a timely manner throughout the summer of 2013 as Jimmy would not budge relative to funding Vicky and I focused all my efforts on trying to help her find funding for her ministry that, really, became the funding of her life as she had very little support from anywhere else.
She had a golf/life coaching business alongside her ministry and the sale of her books. She continually complained to me that the Pinehurst area was "dead" and there was NO business for her in the area. I had a hard time with that as I didn't understand why she couldn't partner with Pinehurst or one of the other golf courses in the area to conduct her coaching with competitive adult golfers as well as up and coming junior golfers in the community. She said she had tried that and was unable to garner enough business from that. I engaged with her as a business consultant in order to help her organize several levels of her business/ministry in order to make her more visible in the community. She either refused to do it or complained that it wouldn't work and nothing was done about that. At one point I evaluated her online presence and offered to implement a self-publishing, self-promotional effort with her books, placement of them on Amazon Kindle, involve herself with her social media followers and go about promoting her books, finish her latest book and begin writing the next book. I took several weeks to convert her book into a text/Word version edit the contents and prepare it for publication on Kindle. She never uploaded the file. We talked about her as a representative of "Open Doors" and how she could engage with the local and regional churches, ask for a platform to introduce what we would be doing during the Open and ask for donations to her non-profit. This was a wonderful plan, I thought, as it would introduce the community to her, her ministry, her business as a golf/life coach, promote the Outreach, provide a way for her to request donations and, eventually, allow us to return and solicit volunteers and workers during the Open. She refused to do that. This was mindboggling!
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